Episode 55: Solve More of Your Problems More Easily with THIS Strategy! artwork
Adulthood: Revisited

Episode 55: Solve More of Your Problems More Easily with THIS Strategy!

  • S1E55
  • 13:46
  • August 25th 2020

Howdy, A:R Nation!

I hope this episode finds you in good health and good spirits!

I don't watch a lot of TV.

I did happen, though, to catch the premiere episode of a show called, "The Vow."

The show takes a look at the NXIVM program that was in the news in recent years for alleged crimes.

This isn't what got my attention, though.

As I was watching the show, it dove into the curriculum, and explained how one of the sections in the course was called Rational Inquiry, and that reminded of some courses and books I've gone through.

A few years ago, when I was searching for coaching and training to help me improve my businesses, I had come across NXIVM, as well as a few other programs.

I actually attended the Landmark Forum, which, to my understanding, shares some similarities to the NXIVM program.

Many of these peak performance/development programs focus on removing judgment and subjectivity from one's analysis of events, and just look at the absolute facts that occurred.

That's what this reminded me of.

Generally (and at least this is how I operate), things don't just happen.

A cranky client kept me on the phone for 20 minutes.

I wasn't able to make my sales quota because COVID has made things too tough.

I fought with my partner last night because they leave the toothpaste cap open just to infuriate me.

Usually, when things occur, we add our lenses of judgment and subjectivity to the occurrence.

When, in fact, things just happen.

I had a 20 minute call with a client.

I had x sales.

My partner left the cap off the toothpaste.

When we reduce things to the bare and absolute level, free from judgment and subjectivity, possibilities for action open up really quickly.

This reminded me of my mom when I was recovering from surgery.

She wanted to see me every day if she could.

Unfortunately, the hospital I was at was a little far from where my mom lives.

But when she reduced the problem she was facing (traveling to see me in the hospital) to the absolutes that exist (I live here, hospital is there), the possibilities that existed were readily apparent.

Taking action, and going from A to B was easy.

This applies to so much more in our lives.

You make X dollars today, you want to make X dollars in 30 days.

How can you get from A to B? What possibilities exist for you to get from A to B?

You want your relationship to improve in some capacity - more sex, more conversation, whatever.

Identify, without judgment, where you are at, and where you want to be.

Then brain-dump any and all possibilities to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Engaging in these kinds of objective, rational inquiries helps to make problems more manageable, as well as help us to identify actions we can take now to solve the issues we're facing.

I am going to try to deploy this in my life more, and I encourage you to try the same.

This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.



Adulthood: Revisited

I dunno about y'all, but in the last few years I've been trying to figure who I am.

I've asked myself who am I as a person, as a man, as a partner in relationship, who am I in business.

I wonder if who I am is really who I want to be

If not, when did it change, and what can I do to tap into who I really want to be.

If you've asked yourself questions like these, then I invite you to join me on this journey, Adulthood: Revisited.