E6: FEAR, SAFETY AND CONTROL — the hidden traumas behind people pleasing.
- S1E6
- 20:24
- July 2nd 2025
Unlock the secret to breaking free from people-pleasing habits with insights from our resident expert, Susie Ford.
Join us on "Let's Just Be Fabulous" as we dissect how hidden traumas like childhood abuse, emotional neglect, and perfectionist standards lay the groundwork for people-pleasing tendencies.
Susie reveals how these behaviours, often functioning as survival mechanisms, can manifest in various environments, from the playground to the boardroom.
Discover the broader implications of these tendencies, including their connection to systemic abuse and the generational transmission of trauma.
By recognising these patterns, we aim to guide you in reclaiming your personal power and authentic voice.
Take a step towards living fabulously by learning the art of setting boundaries to protect your energy and self-respect. We discuss the exhausting cycle of constantly meeting others' expectations and how shifting from apologising to expressing gratitude can assert your needs more effectively.
Susie emphasises the significance of authenticity and self-worth as cornerstones of a fulfilling life.
With her wisdom, we encourage you to evaluate past conditioning, embrace your true self, and cultivate a support system that helps identify and challenge people-pleasing behaviours.
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Chapter Summary
Unravelling Trauma (00:10)
Hidden traumas behind people-pleasing behaviours, survival mechanisms, and the need for approval in various environments.
Setting Boundaries, Ending People-Pleasing (10:59)
Setting boundaries and being authentic can prevent burnout and gain self-respect, breaking the cycle of people-pleasing.
Embracing Authenticity and Self-Worth (19:07)
Embrace your true self, be authentic, and spread empowering messages of self-worth with gratitude and stay fabulous.
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