You know that voice in your head that won’t stop replaying awkward conversations or predicting disaster before you’ve even begun? We all have it. But what if you could teach it to speak differently instead of trying to silence that voice?
In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore the surprising science behind self-talk — the silent, internal dialogue that shapes how we think, feel, and act.
Drawing on the work of psychologist Ethan Kross, ancient Stoic philosophy, and the principles of emotional intelligence, we unpack practical tools to help you shift from inner critic to inner coach.
- Why do we spend nearly one-third of our waking life in silent conversation with ourselves?
- The health costs of unchecked mental chatter
- How to use “distanced self-talk” to reduce reactivity and regain perspective
- What Marcus Aurelius and Seneca knew about reasoning with your thoughts
- How awe, self-awareness, and the right kind of listener can calm the storm inside
Whether you're a leader, a partner, a parent, or a human, learning how to talk to yourself more wisely is a game-changer.
Key quote:
“You are not your thoughts. You are the one hearing them.”
Resources mentioned:
- Chatter by Ethan Kross
- Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
- Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence.
Mind the Gap
Welcome to “Mind the Gap,” the podcast where ancient wisdom and modern emotional intelligence converge. I’m Michael Comyn, and with 38 years of experience in emotional intelligence, I’m excited to bring you this exploration of how Stoic philosophy can illuminate our contemporary challenges.
You might also recognize my voice from a different context—I’ve been the one reminding passengers to “Mind the Gap” on public transport across Ireland for the past 25 years. It’s a phrase that’s taken on a new meaning in this podcast, as we delve into the gap between our emotions and reality.
In each episode, we’ll bridge the gap between the timeless insights of Stoic philosophers and the latest understandings of emotional intelligence. I’ll share practical tools and strategies to help you manage feelings, enhance self-awareness, and build resilience.
Join me as we explore how these ancient teachings can provide clarity and guidance for today’s emotional landscape. Let’s close the gap together, turning everyday challenges into opportunities for growth, one episode at a time.
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Welcome to “Mind the Gap,” the podcast where ancient wisdom and modern emotional intelligence converge. I’m Michael Comyn, and with 38 years of experience in emotional intelligence, I’m excited to bring you this exploration of how common sense and wisdom can illuminate our contemporary challenges.
