Five Signs You Might Be A People Pleaser

Has someone told you that you are a people pleaser? It might be true, but it's a good idea to get a second opinion if you aren't sure. Below are 5 signs that you might be a people pleaser - consider these to be your "second opinion."

1. You Can’t Say No, Your friend has asked you for a favour for the 10th time. Your boss just asked you to stay late again. Both of your divorced parents want to see you for the holidays. A people-pleaser says yes to all of these people because they can't seem to say no to anyone. Not saying no means you are definitely a people pleaser, especially when you say yes to things that you know aren't going to work out.

2. You Constantly Wonder What Others Think, Are you always worried that your friends might hate you? Or that your significant other doesn't see you in the way you want them to see you? These anxious thoughts are a sure sign of people-pleasing behaviour. Thoughts like these cause you to please others before taking care of yourself.

3. You Feel You Never Have You Time Self-care is important, and most people-pleasers find they simply don't have the time. Mostly because they are too busy saying yes to everyone else. Take a look at your schedule. Do you have time pencilled in just for you?

If not, you're probably a people pleaser.

4. You Feel Bad Saying No Okay, so maybe you can say no, and you have before. However, did you feel bad or guilty when you said it?

You have every right to say no, and you shouldn't feel bad doing it. If you do, this is another sign that you are a people-pleaser.

5. You Constantly Apologize Are you always apologizing for everything, even stuff that may not be your fault?

This isn't healthy and means that you are probably a people-pleaser. People pleasers want people to like them no matter what, which can lead to them apologizing for things they didn't just to make sure they stay in the person's good graces.

Did you find that three or more of these things described you and how you feel?

If so, you are likely a people pleaser. If you don't want to damage your own health pleasing others, it's definitely time to accept that you are a people pleaser and begin looking for help to overcome your people-pleasing ways.