In this episode, I will discuss how self-sabotage can be a way to avoid feelings of fear or insecurity. I will offer advice on how to overcome rationalization, which is a knee-jerk response to avoid these feelings. I will also share how we have three voices inside of us and that our head usually just gives logical reasons for things on either side, but our heart is usually the one keeping us where we are. If we want to work on overcoming self sabotage, we need to set boundaries and figure out who we want to become and then build processes in place to help us get there.
[00:04 - 01:51] Opening Segment
- Rationalizing wrong decisions
- Attempting to justify inappropriate behaviors
[03:29 - 05:48] Rationalization
- Slow down and question your decisions
- Ask yourself if you are moving forward or staying where you are
- Strip the emotions; listen to the true logic of things
- Allow yourself to truly hear yourself
- Rationalization is avoiding “better” by naming it “hard”
- Becoming aware of your potential and never meeting it
[08:30 - 10:09] Closing Segment
- Overcome self-sabotage and achieve your goals
- Final words
Quotes:
"You have to keep running to outrun the beasts, but you're also trying to figure out what will happen once you get to the cliff. As you get closer, you see that there are pillars set up to allow you to cross the Canyon. You're deathly scared of heights, and the idea of having to jump from pillar to pillar is something you can't fathom doing. What other options do you have?" - Sarah Hipps
"At some point you have to become more stricter with yourself. Set boundaries, figure out who you want to become and then put processes in place to build towards it." - Sarah Hipps
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Show Up with Sarah
Hi, I’m Sarah A. Hipps, Opportunity Coach. Being an Opportunity Coach simply means that I help men discover opportunities for growth and how to stop self-sabotaging behaviors. And I want to bring my real time thoughts, influences, and connections to you through Show Up with Sarah. This podcast is aimed to make the intimate and vulnerable parts of male growth and discovery a real and more common conversation. On my solo episodes, I will bring you practices I do with clients to help you become more self aware; and on my guest episodes, you’ll hear discussion about self-determination, recovery, addiction, entrepreneurship, mental health, and relationships. From experts in their fields to everyday people discovering their best selves, this podcast is for the person who knows they can be more but doesn’t know where to start. To learn more about me or Opportunity Coaching, find me at www.sarahhipps.com and thank you for showing up for the conversation!