Understanding what's happening online and trusting your teen anyway - with digital parenting expert Elizabeth Milovidov artwork
Teenage Kicks Podcast

Understanding what's happening online and trusting your teen anyway - with digital parenting expert Elizabeth Milovidov

  • S2E16
  • 58:40
  • October 6th 2020

As our kids move towards the teenage years it can be difficult for parents to adjust . Starting secondary school is a huge deal for parents as well as kids, and in addition to the physical independence they’re going to need from you, it’s also likely that they’re going to start accessing areas of the online world that you might feel more than a bit twitchy about.

Elizabeth Milovidov is the founder of DigitalParentingCoach.com, a site dedicated to empowering parents to understand what their kids are doing online, so we can trust them to start doing it without constant supervision from us.

Elizabeth also provides support to governments, companies, schools, and parenting associations on digital parenting, and children and the internet. She’s a Board Trustee for the Diana Award, and an Advisor to e-Enfance, (the French Child Online Protection Association).

She’s also a mum - her boys are aged 10 and 13 so she GETS IT!

Talking points:

Listen to the podcast to find out

  • Why you don't have to be a parental control guru to keep your kids safe online
  • How (and why) to let them have some privacy with their online conversations (I was a snooper 🙈
  • Why Snapchat really don't want kids under 13 using their app (it might surprise you)
  • How to trust your teenager to know when something isn't right, and come to you with it
  • What are some of the signs that they're in over their heads
  • How to prompt conversations about their online interactions without interrogation
  • What a gaming addiction looks like, and why your child probably isn't addicted - although if you need it, here's 75 ideas to get teenagers off their screens for a while!
  • How to understand what is happening online, (Snapchat, TikTok, Instagram: pornography, drugs, sexting) and realising that your teen will be okay anyway

Great resources for parenting teens online:

You can also find Elizabeth on Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, and Twitter.

The risk assessment site Elizabeth mentions is https://www.wirelessriskassessment.org/

More teenage parenting tips:

There are lots more episodes of the Teenage Kicks podcast – do have a browse and see if I’ve covered anything else you might find useful. And if you have a suggestion of something you’d like to see talked about on the podcast please do email me on [email protected] I have loads more fabulous guests coming up to help families navigate some of the most complicated – but wonderful – teenage parenting years. I’ve also got some posts on the blog that might help parents with other teenage parenting dilemmas, so do pop over to Actually Mummy if you fancy a read.

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Teenage Kicks Podcast

Welcome to the Teenage Kicks podcast, where we take the fear out of parenting - or becoming - a teenager. The internet is full of parenting advice, from when you feel those first baby kicks, until they reach secondary school. And then it stops. No one is talking about teen parenting problems; so we’re going to.


Essential listening for teenagers and their parents, as well as those who work with young adults; Teenage Kicks has teen mental health at its core, and each episode will empower young people to tackle their own problems, and give parents the guidance to know how to help them.


Each week Helen speaks to real individuals who've experienced the issues that young people are dealing with now, and they don't sugar-coat it. From exam nerves and career worries to issues around sexuality and consent, we get tips and advice from expert guests who understand what it’s like to be a teenager today.


Helen will also be chatting about tough teenage problems like cyberbullying and self-harm, drugs, alcohol and teenage pregnancy, all with a heavy dose of reality from someone who's been there and made it through to the other side.


Teenage Kicks for Parents:

As parents, we understand some of our kids’ struggles, but let’s face it, it’s been a while, and things have moved on since we last panicked over a detention! Teenage choices today can seem alien to their parents because teenage life has changed so dramatically since we were young. Teenage Kicks helps you unravel topics like social media, sexting and teen self-esteem so that you can figure out what your child needs support with, and what’s just normal teenage behaviour.

 

Teenage Kicks for Teens:

Teenagers and parents come at things from different angles, we know. But teenage life can be challenging, and the support of your parents can make navigating tricky dilemmas easier. Teenage Kicks guests aren’t adults who’ve read a textbook; nor are they heavily invested in your day-to-day safety, like your mum and dad. They are real people who’ve been through what you’re dealing with, and they have the inspiration and advice you need to handle it yourself.

Join Helen each week as she chats to a different guest about topics affecting teenagers in 2020, and helps parents and teens to open up a dialogue that will make life easier to navigate on all sides.

You'll also find me chatting about teen parenting here:

Useful websites:

  • The Mix - good information for under 25's
  • Shout - for anyone struggling with anxiety or depression

This series of the Teenage Kicks Podcast is sponsored by Blue Microphones, who gave me the fabulous Yeticaster mic for all my recordings. It's really straightforward to use, and gives me great sound quality without too much editing.