11. Boundaries: A Conversation artwork
The Family Sex Show Starts Here

11. Boundaries: A Conversation

  • E11
  • 1:01:48
  • January 9th 2022

If you made it here, you have *maybe, probably, hopefully* listened through to the whole podcast. Wow. Episode 11 is the last in our series of conversations. This sub-episode is a conversation around the themes and ideas in the Boundaries episode. If you’ve not listened to episode 10 - Boundaries, then we’d suggest you might want to, as we’ll reference it here.

Josie speaks to Matilda Feyiṣayọ Ibini (www.matildaibini.com @astrominx) and Ruth Elliot (www.rutheliot.com). 

Here are some of the materials and cultural references mentioned: #MeToo, Oloni on Twitter, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Re-Writing the Rules by Meg John Barker

Before you listen, we have some content descriptions for you. This episode explores broken boundaries. We talk about consent, victim blaming, shame, gaslighting, sexual violence, digital sexual intimacy and porn. We talk about BDSM, and we talk about disability. We also talk about the pandemic. There is a discussion around different levels of empathy and how that might effect sex and relationships. These sub episodes are conversations. They do not offer solid answers. Sometimes opinions are offered, but they are not necessarily finished. We invite you to keep questioning what is said, to discover what feels right for you, and what doesn’t. This is your conversation as much as it is ours.  If you’d like to listen, please listen in a way or in an environment that feels comfortable for you.

For more information, a glossary of terms, credits, or for a transcript of the podcast, please visit www.thefamilysexshow.com 

If you’d like to find us on social media, you can do that @ThisEgg_ across Instagram and Twitter. We’re also using the hashtag #TFSS

If you have time, we’d love to hear what you thought - please do leave us a review :)

The Family Sex Show Starts Here

Hello! We’re making a theatre show about sex, for families. The Family Sex Show. 

We hope the show will be part of the transformative conversations around relationships and sex being had among families and young people. One among many safe places where children and young people can feel confident to think big thoughts, away from a culture of shame, oppressive beauty standards, queerphobia, and racism. 

We’ve made this podcast, The Family Sex Show Starts Here, as an introduction to that, and to us. This particular version of the podcast is aimed at young people and adults. We’re also working on a version of this podcast that is friendly for children, so check back again soon if that’s something that might be for you. 

 In this series, we explore bodies, gender and sexuality, pleasure, relationships, and boundaries through personal stories, songs, scenes and poems. Then we have conversations jumping off those topics with artists and with Relationships and Sex Education experts.

 This podcast is made in consultation with the School of Sexuality Education. It is a podcast full of thoughts for you to finish.

 For more information, a glossary of terms, or for a transcript of the podcast, please visit www.thefamilysexshow.com 

 If you’d like to find us on social media, you can do that @ThisEgg_ across Instagram and Twitter. We’re also using the hashtag #TFSS.

 If you have time, we’d love to hear what you think - please do leave us a review :)

 We have put specific content descriptions at the start of each episode so you can make a choice about whether or not you'd like to listen.

 This podcast series has been made by ThisEgg, is a multi-award winning theatre company that makes work inviting audiences to ask big questions and imagine a better future. ThisEgg's work is firmly rooted in the hope that theatre can be a motivational force for social change. ThisEgg aims to make people feel more connected. www.thisegg.co.uk 


Laurence Cook & Josie Dale-Jones

Supporting Producers:

Camille Koosyial & Gayathiri Kamalakanthan

Songs by:

Stephanie Levi-John & John Biddle


John Biddle

Writers & Performers:

Josie Dale-Jones, Joe Boylan, Greta Mitchell, Mark Fitzgerald, Stephanie Levi-John, John Biddle, Katie Greenall, Amelia Cavallo, Kimberley Harvey, Keziah Joseph, Aaron Gordon, Laurence Cook, Gayathiri Kamalakanthan and Camille Koosyial

Relationship and Sex Education Consultants:

Gayathiri Kamalakanthan for School of Sexuality Education

Guest Speakers:

Bodies: Toni Lewis & Kate Lovell

Gender & Sexuality: Dr Emma Chan & Reece Lyons

Pleasure: Selina Thomson & Sreena Pluck

Relationships: Sophie Whitehead & Gayathiri Kamalakanthan

Boundaries: Matilda Feyiṣayọ Ibini & Ruth Elliot

The theatre show was originally commissioned by the egg, Theatre Royal Bath for the Leverhulme Arts Scholarship. The R&D and this podcast has been supported by public funding through Arts Council England and the National Lottery.