I’m going through a transition as a mother. I’m in this torn space of giving my kids the space to grow, develop, and learn, but I’m still looking at them like the 2-year-olds I chased after to make sure they didn’t fall or play with the sockets.
In my transition as a mom, I’m in a delicate space where I’m trying to make sure the teaching is there for my kids. I say that because I want them to be in tune with their feelings and being comfortable openly expressing how they feel, and feeling like they can sit me down and talk to me about anything whether it’s good or bad. The struggle with me is that I didn’t grow up like that - talking back, having an opinion, all that is against the black parent’s law and as long as you lived under your parents’ roof you didn’t have an opinion, you not paying no bills. So there were things I had to learn and think about it like what I want my relationships with my kids to look like as they get older and how do I instill things in them without it being shoved down their throats.
So, just as my kids are growing and developing, I am too.
I’m unlearning mom guilt. Feeling like I’m not enough, I haven’t done enough, like I’ve failed my kids on things that bother me but they’re not even thinking about let alone tripping about. I feel like that goes back to the desire of some parents who want to live vicariously through their kids. And that also goes back to other people’s opinions - whether it’s the dad or grandparents or friends who want to tell you your kids.
So much to unpack in this episode - tune in!
What are some things you’ve had to learn and unlearn as a mother?
The WERKin' Mommas Podcast
Hey y'all. Welcome to another episode of The WERKin' Mommas podcast. I'm Nikki Winston and so excited and glad to have you tuning in and rockin' with me today.
I'm here to talk about a PLETHORA of things - I am a Certified Public Accountant, a CPA exam instructor & coach, a writer, podcaster and owner of The Winston CPA Group. I also like to give career advice and share my experiences as a black woman/disruptive millennial working in corporate America while running my own businesses.
One of the things about my podcast is that it's very cathartic and therapeutic for me. So I don't edit my podcast; I want the organic emotion, the feeling, the moment to live through the episodes and I don't want to edit out something because I sip my water or clear my throat or one of my kids barges into my studio while I'm recording.
I'm excited to jump into today's episode. If you're tuning in for the first time, welcome, thank you for being here. If you're a regular listener: hey, hello, welcome back! Let you network know you're listening to this episode by using the hashtag #WERKinMommas also feel free to tag me @NikkWinstonCPA.
You can also find more information about The Winston CPA Group, writing & content creation services, as well as get right for the CPA exam all on my website at nikkwinstoncpa.com. You can also find me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter @NikkWinstonCPA. So...let's jump into this episode. Grab your water, tea, whiskey, or whatever pleases your palate. Let's go!
Before anything else that you read below about my career and accolades, I'm a Momma. I wrote this blog post on why I started this podcast for moms everywhere.
Nikki is a CPA and technical writer who teaches accounting students, professionals, and CPA candidates how to master accounting principles that are essential to success in the industry. From almost two decades of hands-on experience leading accounting departments for billion dollar brands, PE-backed companies, and startups, Nikki knows that accounting tells the real story of a business.
Nikki has landed coverage in print and digital platforms including Bloomberg Accounting & Tax, Reader’s Digest, and the Journal of Accountancy. Her CPA Exam Coaching Program had a 100% pass rate in the first quarter that it launched. She’s recognized as a Top 40 Under 40 in the Accounting Profession by CPA Practice Advisor and serves on the AICPA’s Academic Executive Committee.
In addition to her expertise in accounting & writing, Nikki is the host of The WERKin’ Mommas podcast.
Catch Nikki on social media @NikkWinstonCPA sharing accounting insights, career development tips, and all things mom life.
Ditch the "running on fumes" mentality. We're changing the definition of a working mom from overwhelmed and underappreciated to being celebrated and unapologetic for wanting it all - kids, a career, business owner, stay-at-home mom and whatever else she chooses!
We want to relieve Moms of errands & tasks that can be delegated so they can spend more time doing things they love.