190: Stop Forcing It: How to Know When Something Isn’t Meant for You
- S2E190
- 18:01
- April 16th 2026
✨ Are you trying to make something work that just isn’t meant to?
I used to believe I could make anything work: a program, a relationship, even a pair of shoes that didn’t quite fit. If I committed, I followed through. Quitting was never an option.
But I started to notice: just because I could force something to work didn’t mean it was right for me.
In this episode, I share the moment that changed everything for me, and the three clear signals I now use to know when something is truly aligned, and when it’s time to let go.
If you’ve ever stayed too long, pushed too hard, or tried to convince yourself something was “good enough,” this episode will help you recalibrate.
💎 Key Takeaways
• Forcing something to work can quietly pull you further away from what’s actually right for you
• Three simple signals your body gives you when something is aligned
• How your “true self” communicates through ease, energy, and desire to act
• The hidden cost of staying too long, and how to give yourself permission to walk away
What I Explore In This Episode
I share a personal pattern of trying to make everything work. I took pride in being someone who followed through and didn’t give up. But over time, I realized persistence without alignment can lead to frustration, wasted energy, and even physical consequences.
I tell a story about buying shoes that were “good enough”, and how forcing myself to wear them created more problems. That became a powerful metaphor for how we approach programs, coaches, relationships, and opportunities.
From there, I introduce three key signals I use to determine if something is right for me. These signals are subtle but powerful, coming from what I call the true self, the part of us that knows what is aligned and what is not.
I also talk about how past experiences can create resistance, and how learning to process them allows you to make clearer, more grounded decisions moving forward.
This episode is about learning to trust what you feel, not to force outcomes, and to choose what genuinely supports your growth.
Invitation
If you’re ready to stop forcing and start moving forward with clarity and momentum, I invite you to join me for my upcoming Ladder Method workshop. I’ll walk you through how to break down your goals in a way that actually works for you.
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