17. Stop Forcing Success: How Relaxation Fuels Achievement
- S5E17
- 13:00
- May 14th 2021
Ever feel like the harder you push, the further success seems to slip away? What if the key to reaching your goals wasn’t working more, but relaxing more intentionally?
There’s a reason so many people feel stuck or frustrated in their journey toward achievement. According to Donna Kunde and Londina Cruz in this episode of Building Success Habits, “Relax Your Way to Success,” the constant urge to force outcomes and multitask may actually be sabotaging our natural, built-in mechanisms for progress. This episode teaches listeners how to let go, trust their instincts, and discover greater ease—and better results—along the way.
What you need to know
- Your brain’s success mechanism works best when not jammed up by constant conscious effort. As Donna Kunde shares, when we overthink or rely solely on conscious planning, we end up blocking creative solutions.
- Relaxation isn’t laziness. It’s a practical tool that allows your subconscious mind to work for you rather than against you.
- Multitasking doesn’t work, and the hosts remind us that our brains aren’t wired to handle too many things at once. Trying to do it all can actually slow your progress.
- Staying present and focused in the moment allows creativity and solutions to surface naturally. When you set your goal and then focus on the present, your instincts help guide course corrections.
What you need to do
- Pause and examine how much you’re trying to force or control outcomes. Notice if you’re overthinking your goals or juggling too many tasks at once.
- Practice being present. Take time regularly to settle your thoughts, relax your body, and focus on the current moment instead of worrying about the future or past.
- Trust your mind’s creative process. After setting your goal, allow space for ideas and solutions to arise by stepping back instead of micromanaging every step.
- Notice your impulse to multitask, and instead, give your full attention to each task before moving on to the next.
Your Next Step
Try a simple daily experiment: Choose one goal or task, and intentionally relax before you work on it. Take a few deep breaths, focus on what is (not what you think it should be), and see if a new solution or easier flow emerges. Then, reflect on your experience and share it with others in the “Build My Business Today” Facebook group mentioned by Donna Kunde and Londina Cruz. This episode is your invitation to experiment with relaxation as a path to genuine progress.
Building Success Habits
“The more tranquil a person becomes, the greater is their success, their influence, their power for good.” James Allen
"Building Success Habits" is a podcast hosted by Donna Kunde (Business Coach) and Londina Cruz (Life Strategist). The show is all about sharing practical tips, strategies, and insights for building success habits in all areas of life.
This show was originally produced as hour-long radio content, later adapted into 4-episode Signature Season themes for podcast listeners.
The podcast explores a variety of success habits, including goal-setting, resilience, focus, and productivity. Each episode provides insights into how these habits can be developed and maintained, along with tips for staying motivated and on track.
In addition to success habits, the show covers personal development and mindset topics, such as overcoming limiting beliefs and cultivating a growth mindset. Donna and Londina share their own experiences and challenges in these areas, providing listeners with relatable examples and actionable advice.
Whether you are an entrepreneur, business owner, or simply someone who wants to achieve more success in your personal and professional life, "Building Success Habits" offers inspiration and tools to help you achieve your goals and live a more fulfilling life.
Join Donna and Londina on this journey of self-discovery and growth, and learn how to build the success habits that will transform your life.
"When we begin to see the world from the inside out, life will happen through us instead of to us."
Donna Kunde is one of IBGR's founders and started her career in radio at WNTW on it's Sales 2020 Show. In her role as EVP Supply Management she is responsible for day-to-day station operations and the quality of programming - both show topics and OnAir Talent.
She is an internationally recognized Business Coach and Trainer bringing 20+ years’ experience in military leadership. Donna has been a serial entrepreneur for the last 25 years owning a range of businesses experiencing the unique challenges solopreneurs face with small business growth.
In addition to her entrepreneurial background, Donna brings 35 years of academic and applied cognitive and behavioral science experience to the IBGR Network. Her specialty is helping organizations navigate through change, challenge and tragedy. The combination of her intensive study of the mind, plus practical applications in human potential, Donna provides a unique perspective on leadership, personal growth, sales, communication, and team building.
A high point of Donna's training career happened when she accompanied Dr. John C. Maxwell and his team on a country transformation mission. At the request of the Costa Rican government, the Maxwell team successfully trained 15,000 Round Table facilitators in three days, resulting in a 2% transformation of that nation and projected to reach another 60,000 Costa Ricans the following week. Her trademark energetic communication style and teaching skills have earned her a reputation as a highly effective speaker and respected facilitator.
Londina Cruz is an International Trainer, Executive Coach, and Keynote Speaker with the John Maxwell Team and a Strategic Coach with Anthony Robbins. Londina is a part of Global Transformation with the John Maxwell Foundation, training thousands of leaders in Paraguay and Costa Rica to help transform the values and culture of these nations.
She has spent more than 25 years studying, coaching and consulting in personal mastery and human performance techniques. These techniques include emotional and social intelligence trainings that elevate individuals, leaders and their organizations to excel well beyond current standards – offering a dynamic competitive advantage.
Londina has taken a situation that would devastate most individuals, being hit by a drunk driver, and has turned it into her life force. In this accident, Londina sustained a traumatic head injury, broken back and broken neck. The doctors gave her little hope of a normal life. She has now turned this challenge into an extraordinary life of empowering others to turn their fears into freedom and reach their potential.
Mastering her limiting beliefs and overcoming all that doctors had told her, Londina has thrived physically as well.
She has become a Triathlete (competing in a Half-Ironman and medaling in numerous other triathlons), a two-time marathon runner (Nike Women’s in San Francisco and the Marine Corps in Washington), and a cyclist.
She has released 100 lbs. by taking control of her thoughts instead of allowing thoughts to control her.
She knows what it takes to take you and your team from where you are to where you want to be.
As a Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, I can offer you workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding your personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John’s proven leadership methods. Working together, I will move you and/or your team or organization in the desired direction to reach your goals.
Contact me. I am looking forward to assisting you on your journey to becoming a success in your life and/or business.