E22 SUCCESS HABIT #5 - Harnessing the Habit of Choice
- S1E22
- 13:00
- January 9th 2025
Ever feel like you’re stuck replaying the same annoying story in your head—long after the moment has passed? What if you had the power to clear away negativity and choose a drama free zone, every single day?
When it comes to building lasting success habits, the choices we make about drama—how we respond to negativity, how much we let stories linger, and what we choose to carry emotionally—play a vital role.
Drama isn't just a distraction: it’s addictive, it drains creativity, and left unchecked, it quietly grows into resentment, resistance, and even revenge. Our reactions are often rooted not in reality, but in the stories we tell ourselves—and that shapes our personal and professional lives more than we realize.
What You Need to Know
There are four key pillars that feed drama: jumping to conclusions, assuming “woe is me” and seeking offense, spinning stories to fill in the blanks, and doubting others’ intentions.
Drama is usually a blind spot; we don’t see it in ourselves until someone points it out. Without recognizing and resolving drama, we risk letting negativity fester. The amount of drama we experience often reflects our perspective—our attitude in the moment and the labels we put on other people’s actions.
What You Need to Do
Start by noticing your default reactions when something irritating happens. Are you inventing stories or assuming the worst? Shift your perspective—declare noble intent for others, and actively choose not to take things personally.
When drama creeps in, catch yourself before you retell the story to your coworkers or friends. Remind yourself: most people aren’t out to get you, and their actions usually have nothing to do with your worth or day. Choose to let go, for your benefit.
Your Next Step
Next time you find yourself retelling—or reliving—a frustrating event, pause and ask: Am I carrying a story that doesn’t serve me?
Practice letting go in the moment, and try to see people with noble intent. Building this habit frees up mental space, strengthens your creativity, and lets you focus on what truly matters.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:25 The Power of Choice
02:02 Understanding Drama and Its Impact
03:25 Four Pillars of Drama
04:01 Drama Attitudes and Characters
10:06 The Story of the Two Monks
11:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Building Success Habits
“The more tranquil a person becomes, the greater is their success, their influence, their power for good.” James Allen
"Building Success Habits" is a podcast hosted by Donna Kunde (Business Coach) and Londina Cruz (Life Strategist). The show is all about sharing practical tips, strategies, and insights for building success habits in all areas of life.
This show was originally produced as hour-long radio content, later adapted into 4-episode Signature Season themes for podcast listeners.
The podcast explores a variety of success habits, including goal-setting, resilience, focus, and productivity. Each episode provides insights into how these habits can be developed and maintained, along with tips for staying motivated and on track.
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Donna Kunde is one of IBGR's founders and started her career in radio at WNTW on it's Sales 2020 Show. In her role as EVP Supply Management she is responsible for day-to-day station operations and the quality of programming - both show topics and OnAir Talent.
She is an internationally recognized Business Coach and Trainer bringing 20+ years’ experience in military leadership. Donna has been a serial entrepreneur for the last 25 years owning a range of businesses experiencing the unique challenges solopreneurs face with small business growth.
In addition to her entrepreneurial background, Donna brings 35 years of academic and applied cognitive and behavioral science experience to the IBGR Network. Her specialty is helping organizations navigate through change, challenge and tragedy. The combination of her intensive study of the mind, plus practical applications in human potential, Donna provides a unique perspective on leadership, personal growth, sales, communication, and team building.
A high point of Donna's training career happened when she accompanied Dr. John C. Maxwell and his team on a country transformation mission. At the request of the Costa Rican government, the Maxwell team successfully trained 15,000 Round Table facilitators in three days, resulting in a 2% transformation of that nation and projected to reach another 60,000 Costa Ricans the following week. Her trademark energetic communication style and teaching skills have earned her a reputation as a highly effective speaker and respected facilitator.
Londina Cruz is an International Trainer, Executive Coach, and Keynote Speaker with the John Maxwell Team and a Strategic Coach with Anthony Robbins. Londina is a part of Global Transformation with the John Maxwell Foundation, training thousands of leaders in Paraguay and Costa Rica to help transform the values and culture of these nations.
She has spent more than 25 years studying, coaching and consulting in personal mastery and human performance techniques. These techniques include emotional and social intelligence trainings that elevate individuals, leaders and their organizations to excel well beyond current standards – offering a dynamic competitive advantage.
Londina has taken a situation that would devastate most individuals, being hit by a drunk driver, and has turned it into her life force. In this accident, Londina sustained a traumatic head injury, broken back and broken neck. The doctors gave her little hope of a normal life. She has now turned this challenge into an extraordinary life of empowering others to turn their fears into freedom and reach their potential.
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She has become a Triathlete (competing in a Half-Ironman and medaling in numerous other triathlons), a two-time marathon runner (Nike Women’s in San Francisco and the Marine Corps in Washington), and a cyclist.
She has released 100 lbs. by taking control of her thoughts instead of allowing thoughts to control her.
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