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Building Success Habits

The Destroyer Deep Dive with Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz

  • S10E34
  • 12:59
  • September 22nd 2022

S10 E34 The Destroyer Deep Dive |IBGR | Donna Kunde & Londina Cruz “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ― Joseph Campbell

At some point in our lives, the Destroyer within or without strikes and hollows us out and humbles us. It “wounds” us, and through that opening we are able to experience new realities. People deal with their sense of powerlessness in such situations differently. Some people simply miss the rebirth that comes after the death because they get stuck in their bitterness. It is important to feel our grief and anger about our suffering and then let go at least long enough to see the new reality on the other side. Beliefs that reassure us that everything is in control are helpful.

The Destroyer becomes our ally when we recognize the need to change or give something up without denying the pain or grief involved.

There are five levels of the Destroyer:

Shadow - Self-destructiveness (including drug and alcohol abuse, suicide) and/or destruction of others (including murder, rape, defamation of character)

Call - Experience of pain, suffering, tragedy, loss

Spiral One - Confusion, grappling with meaning of death, loss, pain

Spiral Two - Acceptance of mortality, loss and relative powerlessness

Spiral Three - Ability to choose to let go of anything that no longer supports your values, life and growth, or that of others

Begin by getting centered and quiet, then breathe deeply. Allow yourself to move through the events of your life as if you were watching the main scenes of a movie sped up for easy viewing. Let yourself feel, see, or hear the major events of your childhood, adulthood, mid-life, old age, and finally your death. In this daydream, allow yourself to “remember” events that have not yet happened. When you reach your death, spend time saying good-bye to everything that brings you pleasure – from the people and places and activities you love to ordinary things like the warmth of the sun on your skin, the feel of a brisk morning shower, the smell of a rose. Then allow yourself to watch your body being buried or cremated. Then, after some interval, allow yourself to experience whatever form of rebirth is consistent with your philosophy or theology.

Building Success Habits

“The more tranquil a person becomes, the greater is their success, their influence, their power for good.” James Allen

How does that sit with you? What are the possibilities? That is what we will be exploring over the next 9 weeks.

This is the our brand new series called Building Success Habits. This weekly show will take you, the business owner, on a journey inside your current thinking to examine the the habits that are leading to the results you are getting in both business and life. By taking this journey with us, you will be able to build the healthy business habits every successful business owner needs to manage their growing business. 


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Donna Kunde
IBGR Managing Partner

"When we begin to see the world from the inside out, life will happen through us instead of to us."

Donna Kunde is one of IBGR's founders and started her career in radio at WNTW on it's Sales 2020 Show. In her role as EVP Supply Management she is responsible for day-to-day station operations and the quality of programming - both show topics and OnAir Talent.

She is an internationally recognized Business Coach and Trainer bringing 20+ years’ experience in military leadership. Donna has been a serial entrepreneur for the last 25 years owning a range of businesses experiencing the unique challenges solopreneurs face with small business growth. 

In addition to her entrepreneurial background, Donna brings 35 years of academic and applied cognitive and behavioral science experience to the IBGR Network. Her specialty is helping organizations navigate through change, challenge and tragedy. The combination of her intensive study of the mind, plus practical applications in human potential, Donna provides a unique perspective on leadership, personal growth, sales, communication, and team building.

A high point of Donna's training career happened when she accompanied Dr. John C. Maxwell and his team on a country transformation mission. At the request of the Costa Rican government, the Maxwell team successfully trained 15,000 Round Table facilitators in three days, resulting in a 2% transformation of that nation and projected to reach another 60,000 Costa Ricans the following week. Her trademark energetic communication style and teaching skills have earned her a reputation as a highly effective speaker and respected facilitator.

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Londina Cruz
Executive Coach, Speaker and Trainer

Londina Cruz is an International Trainer, Executive Coach, and Keynote Speaker with the John Maxwell Team and a Strategic Coach with Anthony Robbins.  Londina is a part of Global Transformation with the John Maxwell Foundation, training thousands of leaders in Paraguay and Costa Rica to help transform the values and culture of these nations.

She has spent more than 25 years studying, coaching and consulting in personal mastery and human performance techniques. These techniques include emotional and social intelligence trainings that elevate individuals, leaders and their organizations to excel well beyond current standards – offering a dynamic competitive advantage.

Londina has taken a situation that would devastate most individuals, being hit by a drunk driver, and has turned it into her life force. In this accident, Londina sustained a traumatic head injury, broken back and broken neck. The doctors gave her little hope of a normal life.   She has now turned this challenge into an extraordinary life of empowering others to turn their fears into freedom and reach their potential.

Mastering her limiting beliefs and overcoming all that doctors had told her, Londina has thrived physically as well.

She has become a Triathlete (competing in a Half-Ironman and medaling in numerous other triathlons), a two-time marathon runner (Nike Women’s in San Francisco and the Marine Corps in Washington), and a cyclist.

She has released 100 lbs. by taking control of her thoughts instead of allowing thoughts to control her.

She knows what it takes to take you and your team from where you are to where you want to be.

As a Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, I can offer you workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding your personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John’s proven leadership methods. Working together, I will move you and/or your team or organization in the desired direction to reach your goals.

Contact me. I am looking forward to assisting you on your journey to becoming a success in your life and/or business.