Creating a Relationship Contract for the Dementia Journey with Debra Hallisey
- S2025E134
- 1:01:07
- February 4th 2025
Have you ever considered creating a “contract” with yourself as a caregiver—one that clearly defines what you can and cannot do? Debra Hallisey, caregiver advocate and author of A Relationship Contract for Dementia Caregivers, joins us to share her insights on navigating caregiving dynamics, especially for those caring for a loved one with dementia.
In this heartfelt conversation, Debra offers practical tools and exercises to help caregivers embrace the reality of dementia while maintaining their emotional well-being. From her caregiving journey to her work supporting families, Debra provides a profoundly compassionate perspective on the challenges and rewards of creating a safe and loving environment for individuals with dementia.
Whether you’re a caregiver or supporting someone who is, this episode is a valuable resource filled with actionable strategies and powerful insights to help you navigate the complexities of dementia care. Don’t miss it!
In addition to learning more about relationship contracts, you’ll learn:
- The importance of NOT keeping dementia diagnoses secret
- Managing grief throughout the caregiving journey
- Transitioning from home care to assisted living
- Cultural perspectives on caregiving
Debra also offers the following advice for caregivers:
- Remember your person is “still in there” despite changes
- Set clear boundaries using “I” statements
- Be specific when asking others for help
- Give yourself grace throughout the journey
Quote: “Grief runs through caregiving like a river” - Debra Hallisey
After the Podcast:
Read Debra's AlzAuthors blog post
Buy the book, A Relationship Contract for Dementia Caregivers, by Debra Hallisey, Note: We are an Amazon Associate and may receive a small commission from book sales.
Follow Debra
Resources mentioned in this episode are:
- Documentary: Wine, Women and Dementia by Kitty Norton
- Goodwin Living (Virginia) - Model program for caregiver education and support
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